Children’s aggression is often perceived by adults, as a call to action: punish, spank, scream, put in a corner. But such education of children is unlikely to be productive, do not rush to the conclusions. At first it would be necessary to figure out where the wind blows, why suddenly the baby had a desire to hurt, scream, take, quarrel. If you do not take appropriate measures in time, then children’s aggression will go into a persistent personality trait – aggressiveness.
So, what are the main causes of children’s aggression?
Demonstrative aggression, struggle for attention.
Когда кроха не ощущает со стороны родителей достаточно любви, нежности и ласки, то он старается любым способом обратить на себя внимание. Sometimes daily joint activities and communication easily remove this problem.
Sometimes under children’s aggression hides a test of parents for the sincerity of their love: “Will you love me so harmful and drunk?”. And if at such moments a negative assessment of the crumbs will sound, but not his act, then problems may arise, the peanut will assume that parental love is conditional: you behave well – I love, you behave badly – I do not like. The baby should know that you always love him, but you may not like some of his actions or forms of behavior.
Resentment against parents
Preschoolers and younger students cannot explain everything that is upset. This oppresses them and is expressed in childhood aggression. How the baby can explain that he is offended by the younger who is paid more attention, that he is offended by his parents for their divorce, for putting him alone in the hospital or taken to his grandmother, or maybe he did not fulfill their promise or punished undeservedly? It is worth dealing with the cause of resentment, and aggression will leave. Although parents can not always isolate this resentment, believing that there are no reasons for her. But the baby thinks and reacts differently than an adult, so you need to look at the situation from his position.
Self -uncertainty leads to protective children’s aggression.
Когда кроха не верит в себя, в свои силы, свои способности, тогда он пытается проявить себя иначе, доказывая всем, что он что-то значит. But sometimes this may mean: “I don’t know how to be different, and if you consider me bad, then get what you want”.
Fatigue or change of environment.
This was noticed by many parents, when the calmly calm, the little one suddenly begins to rage. And the essence of the problem may cover that the baby is very tired of something, lacks sleep, cannot get used to the replaced environment or to a new person. This is especially true for easily excitable preschoolers.
There are probably no families where from their own experience they would not find out what children’s aggression is. It’s not scary if she appeared. It’s scary if you cannot understand why. If others behave correctly, then the baby will take a positive lesson out of what happened, and aggression will disappear like a terrible dream. Otherwise, it can become a constant companion of a growing man.